classycookiexo:

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classycookiexo:

vikingfunerals:

the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you’re supposed to help your friends move even if it’s hard work. or stay up with them when they’re sad even if you’re gonna lose sleep. you’re supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that’s how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they’re sick. you’re supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there’s actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.

vixen-oxo:

Be rare. Be the vixen with a cunning love of intellectualism. Be the barbie doll who speaks multiple languages. Be the sex fanatic that reads Shakespeare..Be the science nerd that parties frantically.

Your ability to draw someone in is dependent on how addicted you make them. How unique you are. When we reminisce on some of the most seductive people in our lives, the exes we never forget. One of our key fascinations with them is that they were so multifaceted. Muscular yet gentle. Funny yet politically conscious….  it’s the same principle with a lot of areas in life including job interviews.

A seductive person is never predictable or one dimensional. Find your alluring traits and own it.

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what-iz-life:

Your real soulmate will naturally make you feel seen, heard, understood, valued, supported & loved. They’ll bring out your inner child, be open with you & give you best friend vibes. They’ll heal, grow & evolve with you–not only in this lifetime but in every dimension & level up.

thereignclub-trc:

Push yourself to do the things that might take some extra time and discipline, but will help you grow in the long run. Journaling, cooking homemade meals, working out, stepping out of your comfort zone, confronting issues, completing tedious tasks. Self care isn’t always about providing comfort for yourself, it’s about doing the things you might not want to in the moment for the wellbeing of your future self.

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vodka-con-amor-deactivated20221:

Llévate bien con la persona del espejo. No es alguien de quien te puedas alejar. No será fácil, la verdad. Reflejará muchas cosas que te dolerán. Que te grita que necesitas descansar, que te aconsejara que no llores por alguien a quien no te quiere… Llévate bien con la persona del espejo. No la mires mal, no se lo merece. La persona del espejo aunque no la creas, te quiere y sabe que lo estas haciendo bien.

rjanecollins:

Mi psicóloga una vez me dijo: “No puedes culpar a las personas por no saber como quererte” después de explicarme los diferentes tipos de afectos.

vodka-con-amor-deactivated20221:

A veces tienes que golpearte el pecho y reconocer que eres demasiado bueno para ciertas personas y situaciones. Si una persona dice que se preocupa por ti, pero no es capaz de respetarte o tratarte bien, entonces simplemente no te merece a ti ni a todo lo que tienes para ofrecer.

disasterxgirlx:

11 meses.

El tiempo es magico cuando siento la calidez de tu abrazo y la suavidad de tus labios. El tiempo es magico cuando permanezco a tu lado y me susuras lo mucho que me amas. El tiempo es magico cuando estoy contigo.

¿No te parece asombroso? Hemos llegado a diciembre despues de 11 meses largos de espera, miles de niños ilusionados con Santa Claus y juguetes, adolescentes y adultos corriendo de aqui para allá entre citas fugases, regalos navideños y fiestas decembrinas. Y yo aquí, muriéndome de amor por ti. 11 meses largos de espera para navidad pero 11 meses increíbles y adorables a tu lado. 11 meses en los que hemos compartido risas, alegrías, tristezas, enojos, secretos e intimidades. Han transcurrido 11 meses con 350 días desde que decidimos intentar una relación estable y durante todo ese tiempo no hay ni un sólo momento donde mi corazón haya dejado de latir por el tuyo.

¿De verdad es posible amar así de fuerte e intensamente a una persona? Ya te lo he dicho con anterioridad, me aterra sentirme así. Es un sentimiento nuevo en mi vida y perderlo me destrozaría. Y aunque el tiempo es mágico contigo, me asusta que sea tan fugaz un instante. Me asusta que conforme vayamos creciendo y cambiando en algun punto puedas llegar a preguntarte si esto es lo que quieres. Sé que me has pedido que no piense en ese tipo de cosas pero a veces me resulta inevitable. Estamos en constante transformación y durante esta transición a veces dejamos algunos comportamientos o ideologías atrás, olvidamos cosas que solían gustarnos e incluso dejamos de tener interés con algunas otras más. No quiero que eso ocurra con nosotros. No quiero que un día te despiertes y ya no sea lo que esperas o buscas. No quiero ser reemplazable para ti. Mi abuela paterna solía decir que la gente es efímera, pero me niego hacer así para ti. Me niego a convertirme en un recuerdo.

Hoy 16 de diciembre del 2021 me gustaría dedicarte unas palabras que quiero que atesores toda la vida. Hoy 16 de diciembre del 2021 prometo amarte incondicionalmente hasta mis ultimos días, prometo hacer que la sinceridad prevalezca en nuestra relación como lo ha sido hasta ahora y que el respeto, la pasión y el amor que nos tenemos sean los valores que sustente lo nuestro. Prometo nunca dejar de admirarte por tus logros y felicitarte en cada exito que se atreviese en tu vida. Prometo ser ese soporte que necesites en tus días malos, buenos o de enfermedad. Prometo cuidar tu ideal del amor e incluso fortalecerlo para que no tengas motivos de dejar de creer en el. Prometo seguir intentando cada dia ser una mejor persona para ti y para nuestra relación. Prometo ser tuya hasta el final, sin importar cual sea el destino de esta historia. Yo siempre te voy a pertenecer porque jamás volvere amar ni ser la misma después de ti. Prometo aguantar tus gustos extraños cuando se trate de peliculas y prometo disfrazarme de Spiderman las veces que sean necesarias con tal de verte feliz. Prometo no desesperarme o enfadarme cuando las cosas no salgan como esperamos pero tambien prometo ayudarte a arreglarlo. Prometo seguir buscando ideas innovadoras para este amor tan curioso y delicado que tenemos prevalezca, asi como prometo seguir dedicandote una y mil canciones y quizá, otros tres millones más de textos de amor y cartas desprevenidas. Pero prometo siempre amarte, cuidarte y respetarte.

Te puedo asegurar que habrán epocas difíciles donde no sabremos si esto es realmente lo que queremos y quizá querramos renunciar en el camino pero tambien se que habrá mucho amor de sobra con lo que podremos arreglarlo. Y es por eso que quiero pedirte que seas mío. Siempre tuya, siempre mío, siempre nuestros. Sé de antemano que has tenido muchos amores por detras, que no fui la primera que hizo palmitar tu corazon ni tu primer amor pero verdaderamente, espero ser la ultima. Y probablemente esto suenen como votos matrimoniales pero no me desagrada la idea de utilizarlos en algún futuro contigo. Y si algún día dejas de pensar en mí, de quererme o de amarme y borras todos mis recuerdos contigo, no me olvidaré de ti, porque estuviste en el mejor momento siendo todo lo que pudimos ser y te amo por ello. Me enamoraré todas las veces que sean necesarias de ti para que cuando no lo haga más, te siga recordando.

Y no sé mucho sobre la suerte pero este amor estaba destinado a ser, no puedo imaginar en cuantos escenarios o amistades pudimos coincidir pero solo ocurrió en el momento correcto. Y ahora que estamos juntos no voy a permitirme perderte por nada del mundo.

Faltan únicamente 15 días para que el año finalice y cuando aquello suceda me gustaría que volvieras a leer esta carta. Sé que estaras a 403.2 km apartado de mi aquella noche pero ¿Sabes cuál es la mejor parte de este desastre? Es que ambos veremos el mismo cielo acompañado de las estrellas que esa última noche del año nos unirán. Yo no tenía planeado volver a querer a una persona pero que fortuna fue encontrarte porque sin saberlo, hiciste palpitar mi corazón una vez más y de una forma diferente, le diste color a las vibraciones de mi alma y me regalaste calma cuando había desastre. Y nunca voy a poder pagarte aquél acto de amor tan grande que hiciste por mi.

Así que antes de que abras el pequeño obsequio que compré, quiero que sepas el porqué lo escogí.

Lo compré pensando en el lugar donde nos hicimos novios, porque ahí el cielo es tan claro y es tan pacífico que el silencio que se adueña de ese lugar me recuerda a ti. Me has condenado de la peor forma porque siempre que miro hacia arriba mi mente sólo puede pensar en ti y en la manera tan peculiar que tienes de apreciar el cielo y las noches estrelladas.

He escogido este regalo porque a mi me concedieron un deseo las estrellas y fue el amor. Fue tu amor. Para que una estrella nazca hay una cosa que debe suceder: una nebulosa gaseosa debe colapsarse. Y yo colapsé, me desmoroné, pero tu fuiste capaz de apreciarlo. Ya sabes por qué eres mi solecito, ahora sabes por qué el cielo y las estrellas me recuerdan a ti.

Gracias por estos increibles 11 meses llenos de experiencias y lo que aún nos falta por recorrer.

Y no olvides que al final, no estamos tan lejos, siempre veremos el mismo cielo.

Te amo por siempre, Daf.

covenofvenus:

The Allure of Lori Harvey

A Social Analysis of the Modern Black Feminine

For the summer of 2022, Ms. Harvey’s social life is trending, due to her sudden and abrupt ‘amicable’. break up with Michael B. Jordan, who’s also known as baby Denzel and one of the most eligible black men in the world.

We can speculate that the relationship was fake, real, MBJ was played or trying to rehab his image or Lori just didn’t want to settle down and we’ll likely never know the real reason they broke up, but we can unpack the mysteries of Lori’s femininity an allure and figure out why she is so polarizing, equally admired & despised.  But first? We need a little background for a clear picture!

Lori Harvey is the quintessential Black American princess + socialite of the mainstream urban & hood collective. The adoptive stepdaughter of Steve Harvey and progeny of Majorie ‘Lady Heroin’ Harvey, she was born into one generation of black wealth and the genetic lottery. Her biological father was a famed drug kingpin from Memphis who managed to snag her mother. Majorie was also a legend in her own right on the streets, known for her beauty, ruthless demeanor, a peculiar sense of lascivious and lavish tastes, while she courted and eventually married famed drug kings, gangsters and pimps, in the black underworld. Majorie was described as beautiful, intense, ruthless and hypergamous. There was no doubt in Majorie’s mind that she would make it to the top and she didn’t care how she got there. Majorie narrowly avoided going to prison, after being investigated by the FBI and moved on to higher pastures by cleaning up her image, setting her sights on seducing and marrying comedic legend Steve Harvey.

Steve & Majorie Harvey

The glamour of a famous stepfather and the dangerous mystique of her mother's past has rubbed off on Lori, as it appears she intends to follow in her mother’s footsteps by doing the same, and marrying well.

This lends Lori an incredible amount of curiosity and admiration from the black feminine collective. Her personal style, diet and dating choices are all up for social inspection and which she seems to enjoy and utilize to her benefit.

Socially in the black collective, it’s not looked upon favorably for black women to openly date hypergamously. Some could say this fact is easily said for all other women, except for the black woman is drastically socially different. The black woman is expected to be completely self sacrificing to the detriment of herself, other women, black men and the mental and social health of the black community and world, at large.

Historically the black body has been seen as hypersexual cultural commodity and unfortunately still black women aren’t free from these archaic assumptions. This hypersexuality when paired with two hundred plus years of systemic racism & psychological terrorism has created a confusing and hostile climate for the social and mental health of the feminine in the black community. Anything feminine is inherently seen as detriment or looked upon with disgust or shame, in both black men and women. It’s culturally ingrained and internalized, for Black women to be consistently expected to have lower standards in terms of partners whether it be mentally, spiritually, physically or financially and the collective actively participates in defeminizing an robbing black women of their individual self respect and womanhood. These toxic ideologies, have seeped into the black social structure and in the global& mainstream social collective, an have done irreputable damage, terrorizing and harming the social and mental health of both black men and women, whom have been passing down this vicious cycle of toxicity from generation to generation.

In comes Lorie Harvey, who represents a new breed of Black American women in this modern social landscape who have grown tired of a horrible status quo, are hoping for better & who see fractions of themselves in her. She may not even know it but Lori actively carries a new hope of shattering the toxic glass ceiling prepared for black woman by creating a better example of the social options for the black female collective and maybe even the mainstream globally.

Lori is bold and actively hypergamous, dating some of the wealthiest black men in the community and making a clean break when things don’t work out. For the modern black woman this is considered to be highly unusual and makes her intensely polarizing and hated by certain groups of black men, women and the community who aren’t used to change and are comfortably brainwashed by status quo.

For many Lori represents a break from convention and social change of the modern evolution within the mainstream black feminine collective. Change is not easy and this new development is going to be extremely scary to many, for a variety of reasons. For some groups of men, this means having to put in more effort when finding a sexual partner or mate and losing certain benefits they felt previously entitled too, for outsiders this can also mean possibly losing access or the interest wealthy or high status black men financially or sexually that they also feel entitled to, it could even threaten centuries old racist structures which are were intentionally created to keep the black community currently unstable and foster hostility via gender wars. The current dating scene within the community is obviously toxic. The Modern Black women hasn’t really built the healthy structure dating structure, that pushes her and the community to the highest good. Most black women are ignorant on how to go about dating properly or seeking out quality mates, which in turn creates a horrible cycle of toxicity. For many black women this has led to hyper paralyzed state of toxic independence, which has been severely harmful to both black men and women, something that can be further researched by taking the time to read the Willie Lynch letters. It’s important for black women to break this cycle which has been enforced since the beginning the Trans-Atlantic Slave trade, because it will actively promote better social and mental health for both black men and women, and in turn the entire community.

Lori fits a certain beauty standard, which can be argued to fit within some Urban or Eurocentric ideals. She’s moderately brown skin, gently relaxes her hair making it wavy/straight, an has a slim nose and full lips. She’s relatively in shape partaking in Pilates, a bit of precarious dieting and her shape varies between lightly petite and curvy. Her resources give her access to a variety high quality skin care, plastic surgery and beauty treatments. Despite this, her beauty looks natural and feels more easily accessible. She takes a considerable amount of care in her looks and it’s certainly strategic on her part because she’s hyper aware of beauty privilege and the visual nature of men, which she works to her benefit. All of these things somewhat work in her favor, but also can lend way to her being ripped apart socially, because beautiful brown skinned black women aren’t often taken seriously within black collective, without an extremely well credentialed educational background or status, and this may still never be enough. She walks a precarious tightrope of gender and colorism. There is no way of knowing for certain if her behavior would be considered less controversial and tolerated slightly better if she was of lighter of complexion, like the semi-controversial musician and queen of hip-pop Doja Cat, for example. Colorism can be fickle and random, as symptom of systemic racism, which is aggravatingly hard to gage.

Lori’s beauty, background and dating style seems to resonate mainstream black feminine collective who desires to find a new way to counter the deliberate defeminization of the black woman socially. This brings her a degree of considerable allure and magnetism an makes her a interesting woman to watch in the future.

How will it all end ? Will Lori finally find the right man for her ? Only time will tell.

In the meantime, let’s keep our eyes peeled n stay tuned. If there is one thing we can count on it’s for Lori to keep tongues wagging, while putting on a great show!

financeprincess:

✨ things that make my life feel expensive ✨

• Always being curious to learn and actively pursuing knowledge. This is #1 for me. Constantly be trying to elevate yourself with information. There’s no better time than now to be able to learn new things. Psychology, theory, fiction, persuasion, finance, history, emotional growth, nutrition, beauty, time management, philosophy, politics, strategy, classic literature, art, high fashion, hard sciences, technology, investing. There’s so many things to learn about. There are a lot of free courses out there as well.
• Having manners and etiquette. Smile at people. Be friendly. Be especially kind to people working in the service industry, retail, customer service.
• Being well spoken. Limit profanity and slang. Don’t gossip or say anything about yourself in a negative light. Think before you speak. It’s okay to pause, think, and articulate.
• Water, tea, freshly squeezed or cold pressed juices in champagne flutes or wine glasses.
• Making fancy cocktails (or mocktails!) and putting them in proper glasses, with stirrers. It helps if you have a bar setup too, I have a cute lil bar cart with all the fixings.
• Expensive smelling candles. They don’t have to actually be expensive, they just need to look cute and smell good.
• Fresh flowers.
• Taking bubble baths.
• Cooking delicious recipes from scratch, and eating at the dining room table with a full setup. Candles, glassware, cloth napkins, jazz music in the background, the whole nine yards. Ambience is everything.
• Drinking tea in the afternoon out of a teapot and teacup.
• Natural air fresheners. Essential oil diffusers, incense, reed diffusers. I’m a big fan of fresh eucalyptus bundles in the shower too.
• Salt lamps and battery operated candles. I try to live off of low, warm lighting and sunlight as much as I can.
• Houseplants.
• Buying cute crystals and setting up an altar to myself. I have a pretty silk scarf laid out on the end of my vanity, with crystals, sage, written affirmations, etc.
• Silk robes.
• Big fluffy bathrobes.
• Sunlight. Get as much as you can, even in the winter. Go outside in your puffy coat if you have to.
• Being in nature, in general. Nature walks are essential.
• Listening to jazz & classical music.
• Reading. There are a lot of free ebooks online, or you can go to the library too.
• Champagne.
• Cooking with fresh herbs, vegetables, fruits etc.
• Trying new hobbies. Ballet, yoga, Pilates, barre, horseback riding, etc.
• Maintaining a clean and beautiful home environment.
• Wearing perfumes & perfume oils. Right now I’m obsessed with Oudh, it smells incredible.
• Wearing jewelry I love.
• Trying new recipes out of fancy cookbooks.
• Going to wineries and attending wine tasting events.
• Try baking delicious and healthy treats.
• Fresh, high quality bedding. Crispy, high thread count white sheets. Feathery pillows. Great quality mattress.
• Get up and watch the sun rise, if you can. Sunsets are beautiful too.
• Get blackout curtains, especially if you live in a city with light pollution.
• Fancy coffee table books.
• Fresh bread, either from a local bakery or homemade.
• Going to farmers markets.
• Going to museums and art galleries.
• Having dinner with friends. Either at a nice restaurant or having a dinner party.
• Sleeping. Resting. Hibernating. Sitting. Napping. Relaxing. Being Present. Single tasking.
• Espresso drinks at home, with a milk frother and espresso machine. The cost of a mid range espresso machine will pay for itself in no time if you drink takeout coffee regularly.
• Bluetooth speakers in the bathroom, bedroom, and kitchen.
• Big, fluffy, white bath towels.
• High quality, nontoxic personal care products. This goes for hair products, face products, body care, makeup, even toothpaste. Don’t throw everything out, just be conscious of your purchases when you buy new things.
• Going on picnics in the park.
• Dark chocolate.
• Gelato.
• Days at the beach.
• Beautiful lingerie.
• Matcha lattes.
• Going to brunch.
• Going to the library and bookstores.
• Smoothies.
• Reservations at new and exciting restaurants.
• Reusing pretty candle jars as containers.
• Reading luxurious magazines and newspapers. Some of my favorite are Vogue, Town & Country, Architectural Digest, Food & Wine, Financial Times, Bloomberg Businessweek, and The Wall Street Journal.

xoxo ♥